Some basic questions that we have answered from our big research are given below. If you like then please leave a healthy comment at the bottom.
Ans. Husband and wife must have an efficient communication in planning and distributing the responsibilities of the baby. For example, each could have a specific time to look after the baby, feed the baby, put the baby to sleep etc. By sharing in the care of the infant, both the partners develop a sense of mutual cooperation and working as a team, enhancing their bond. Also, they must take some time out, at least once a week, to spend quality time together. Giving gifts to each other occasionally is also advised.
Ans. The most important tool is communication. The couple must be able to talk about their issues without being judgmental about it. They must attempt to understand their partner’s distress and provide emotional support at all times. They must also realize that it’s a two way process and both partners should give in equal amount of effort. Active discussions about the problem, and searching for solutions to the problem should be done as a couple keeping both their interests in mind. The partners must appreciate each other, praise each other and express their feelings openly.
Ans. The first and foremost step is to define boundaries of relatives’ interference in the couple’s life. If there is a misunderstanding, the couple must be advised to withhold judgment until the issue is clearly discussed between the partners. The partners should first decide their goals and then asked to give each other enough time and opportunity to explain the situation before coming to a firm decision, such as divorce or separation. Anger management should be taught to the partner if they are short tempered and impulsive.
Ans. It is possible by being honest about each other’s feelings, having an open communication and trusting each other. Every matter should be resolved with discussions rather than pre formed assumptions based on miscommunication or misunderstandings.
Ans. The couple should be sure not to degrade or blame each other in front of the children. They should foster in children, respect and care for other parent. Equal time with both parents must be ensured so the children are able to adequately bond with both the parents. The couple must behave in a cordial way in front of the children at least. Any major decisions in the children’s life must be taken after the consent of both the parents, following discussions that aim to achieve the best interests of the children. It also must be assured to the children that they are not the cause of the divorce or separation, as such children tend to blame themselves for their parents’ failed relationships.
Ans. The couples must sit down and talk to their children about whatever feelings they are going through; professional counseling may also be taken. The children must be allowed to express their anger and sorrow as well as fears related to their own security. The parents must reassure the children that despite their separation, they still love their children and will be there for them as a team. Behavioral issues may arise in children, which must be handled through appropriate professional help and counseling. Adolescents may harbor anger, which needs to be channelized and expressed.
Ans. Parents must make sure that the children are allowed to express their emotions openly. They must be allowed to talk about both the parents and express negative emotions as well, so that it can be clarified. To ensure their safety, health and good education, it is imperative that both the partners come to an agreement after mutual discussion about what decisions to make regarding the children’s lives. Input of both the parents must be considered and parents must ensure that their decisions are devoid of personal interests; rather it should reflect the best interests of the child.
Ans. The issue of the custody of child usually involves legal proceedings if the parents are unable to come to a mutual agreement. A parent must only keep the child away from the other parent if there is potential; harm to the child due to the nature or mental state of that parent. Otherwise, it is important for the child to be able to be in contact with both parents. In order to minimize the mental pressure on the children, they must be kept out of any bitter arguments or accusations that the parents have with one another. The child must be explained what is going on, and must also be ensured that it is not threatening to the safety or security of the child and that both the parents love the child equally. Individual counseling may be offered. It is always healthy if the child can be explained the proceedings in the presence of both the parents, and hostility is not reflected in the parents’ manners.
Ans. The children should be provided with a nourishing family environment where the disputes are not openly expressed in front of them. Unconditional love and regard to the child will develop self-acceptance and help build confidence. The child should be allowed to express his/ her opinions without fear of being rebuked. Whoever the child’s caregiver is, they may help the child understand his/her role and importance in the family, in the community and the society so that the child is able to become a functional healthy member of the society.